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Frances Nelson deFenelon Cain

December 3, 2017



Family, friendship, and faith were the tenets that guided Frances deFenelon Cain through her 86 years of life. Relationships were key and she nurtured them to the fullest. During the time of her short illness and passing on December 3rd, the quality of those relationships was seen in how people cared for her and how fully the Lord had blessed her.

Born in Indianapolis, Indiana to Irby and Bailey deFenelon, Fran was given many opportunities to broaden herself—dance lessons, voice, horseback riding as well as travel and the training to debut into Indianapolis society.

Following high school, she attended an all-girl’s finishing college in St. Louis, MO, but wanted something more and transferred to Rollins College in Winter Park, Fl. She graduated in 1953 with a degree in Interior Design and returned to Indianapolis.

In her initial working days, Fran was a bank teller and AAA ‘TripTik’ creator. As she would tell it, she looked for jobs in her field, but all that was open to her was fitting and ordering drapes—no thank you. Although Fran did not professionally practice design, it was a passion and avocation throughout her life. Two years later she would meet and marry Charles Cain, also of Indianapolis.

Coincidentally, they had both attended college in Florida, and once their three children were born, they headed back to Winter Park, FL to raise their children and for Charlie to found and run a successful insurance agency. Throughout that time, Fran was a devoted wife, mother, and friend to all.

An avid traveler from a very young age, Fran and Charlie traversed Europe, Mexico and Central America together. They seemed to be always planning that next adventure or two. Just past their 51st anniversary, Charlie passed away and for the next and final ten years, Fran had somewhat of a life resurgence. She gardened avidly, discovered a latent love of cats, joined clubs, social and church groups, attended classes, exercised routinely, and made friends! Fran found true delight in all these new adventures and relationships. Despite being ten years older than most of her friends, she did it all with gusto and panache. It was a life well-lived and she loved every moment of it, reveling in her blessings.

Fran is survived by her daughters, Patti Cain-Stanley, and son-in-law, Glenn Stanley of Costa Mesa, CA and Brenda Miller and son-in-law Kevin Miller of Milton, GA.; and her son, Ed Cain and daughterin-law Monica Cain of Alexander City, AL.; as well as her seven grandchildren: Greg and Brian Stanley, Bailey Barber and Kevin and Kelly Miller, and Alex and Harrison Cain.

In lieu of flowers, please make a memorial donation to either the ASPCA to fight animal cruelty or her local humane society.

Oakville & Milton Humane Society

ASPCA—Memorial Gifts to fight animal cruelty.

Funeral services will be held on Saturday, December 16th at 10:30 am at St. Aidan’s Episcopal Church, 13560 Cogburn Road, Milton, GA 30004. The service will be followed by a luncheon at the church. Frances will be interred at St. Martin in the Fields in Atlanta next to her husband, father, and stepmother.

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